Interacting With Children and Families

Interacting With Children and Families

Communicating with our children and families is about associating in love, one on one, with each specific member of that household. From one viewpoint, we do not pick our household of origin. From a greater point of view, we do. We select our moms and dads and our family members; we pick those that will help us develop our personality and also worths, as well as we do so for the challenge such education will offer us in our life trip.

Due to Parents Negative Treatment on Children

  On child shy or bold extremes, usually found to be brain damage. Examples can be seen in children with special needs are divided into two, very shy (passive) or very brave.

Attitude Extreme bold or shy also seen in children who often receive negative treatment of parents. Unwittingly, this treatment can cause a child's brain is damaged.

Keep in mind, in the growth and development, a child's brain nerves are still in the process of interconnected. When the child's parents often yell, scold, or degrading words and deeds rough, and various other unsavory attitude, the soul of the child becomes distressed.

This pressure resulted in the failure of the linkage is broken and the nerve cells of the brain. If you've suffered damage certainly need time to rebuild. Repair was not perfect because the former will take the damage already settled.

In addition, children are often negative addressed will also form a way of thinking that is not optimal. Information received by the child is not going to get to the center of his brain, but only processed in the brainstem alone, making it difficult for him to be able to think logically.

Therefore, it is necessary parenting that can make children happy and confident without him spoiled and not independent. Among other closely and carefully deal with children, spoke with a gentle intonation, and a parent who was able to be flexible in all situations. All this will help your child have a positive experience that will shape the course of development, like any good cognitive mental state.

When to Stop Bath with Kids?

Rules bath together, also naked in front of family members, varies in each person. Some families may regard a young naked and running around without wearing clothes in public if he did not feel embarrassed. Unfortunately the habits of these children can continue when the children have started to adolescence. They could consider this a regular thing, but it's not.

Should lesson about the limits of nudity is starting opposite sex parents and siblings since the child was aged 4 or 5 years. Here are some reasons:

First, the child will soon enter the school and clearly unacceptable nudity in there.

Second, most families impose certain rules of modesty. If the child is still frequent bathing with parents, it could be a while, interest in children to see another person's body gave him problems in other families.

Third, it would be better for children to learn the anatomy of genital relatives and friends of his age rather than see their parents naked. If you agree, children ages 4 and 5 should begin to be taught respect for privacy. Stop bath and shower areas with the children. Close the bathroom door when using the toilet. Close the bedroom door when you dress and suggest they do the same.

Training children Early Financial Intelligence

kids with money

Children need to understand money, so as not to grow into a consumerist and materialistic. It is important for parents to train children early financial intelligence.

Child psychologist said financial intelligence can be introduced to children from toddlers. Financial intelligence should be introduced at an early age, since toddlers can so the child can manage the money and take the right decisions about finances.

Materialistic because many children do not develop financial intelligence. The doctrine of this money expansive meaning, rather than simply introducing value for money, but its use.

Benefits of Fasting For Kids

fasting kids

In the fasting month, have the children been taught how to fast? Even though fasting is required to withstand hunger, thirst, and appetite, but you do not have to worry children will dehydrate the body and stunted development.

7 must have Skills for your kids

shopping kids

Nutritious foods, healthy body, good education, good manners and good religious instruction to the attention of all parents of children face the world in the future. For each of the parents realize that children do not live with them forever. One time they will mature and start her own life. Well, the parents certainly hope the children will be independent, get a decent livelihood and well received by the environment.

5 Ways to Express Love to your Children

It is appropriate child receives outpouring of love from their parents. And, there are many ways to show love for children. According to psychologist Rustika Thamrin, love can not be said with words, but also with body language such as touch and deeds. However, the need for consistency to express feelings of love, so that children can develop positive self attitude in him.

Five causes of children do not like to stay at home

playing kids

I wonder why so school-age children often play outside the house. Dr Weny Savitry Sembiring Psi, MSI have the following five reasons explain the solution.

1. Do not have a regular schedule.
Children who are not accustomed to having a schedule since childhood, finally tends to use his time in vain. Whenever she wanted to do something, do instantly without considering anything else. If he still wants to play, he will continue playing, no matter had not had lunch, not bathing, not doing homework and so on.
Solution: Create a daily schedule. If it was not able, her mother and father can help create. Home from school, change clothes, lunch, after which a break or a nap. Then, wake up, shower, if there are no lessons or activities at school, probably around 1-2 hours, then do homework or schoolwork. Performed on a regular schedule and will continue to make children get used to. If there were not tired of reminding the violated.

2. There are no events of interest.
Lacks of activities or hobbies that are of interest to children spend their time just to play.
Solution: Parents should be keen to see and direct the child's talents or interests. If the child looks interested in football or music, facilitation to join the football club or a music school. Oriented activities such as this is more useful, channeled his interest in a proper way.

3. Lack of good communication.
Children who lack good communication with parents have a tendency to always play outside the home. Parents who always blame the child, criticized, banned, and so on, or parents who fought constantly, this will make the child feel comfortable, so there is opportunity out, he will use it. The danger, if the child is happier outside the home, he could fall in unhealthy relationships and even drugs.
Solution: Try the approach in children, while casually talking to why he always wanted to play outside the home. Make this conversation as a casual conversation; do not blame the child or cornering. If he does not stand up to blaze with the situation at home, do not be angry, be self-introspection, do the repairs so that children feel at home again. If necessary, involve experts, in this case a psychologist, to help people find a way out.

4. Character of the child support.
Certain characters, such as, children with kinesthetic intelligence, generally can not be told to stay home, he liked the broad field of activities. So it felt like to always play outside.
Solution: Look for activities that are beneficial to overcome the excess. Such as by listing them in sports clubs or extracurricular activities at school. Do not get because parents do not realize this, that there is actually a fight every day with the kids, because they feel the child continued to play outdoors, is not willing to learn, and so forth.

5. No friends at home.
Children who are always alone in the house, but living in an environment where many children her own age, are more likely to be tempted to play with. Every day after school or evening he heard the other children busy playing outside, he inevitably comes into play.
Solution: Prohibit the child from the house at all is definitely not a wise choice. Should provide clear rules or limits, how long should play, any day, combine with other solutions such as tutoring include or incorporate it into the club.

Why The Feeling unrivaled brother?

In preschool, children can engage in competition with his brother who was a baby or toddler. What causes it?

1. Need recognition. At the age of 3-5 years, children already have the desire to excel. He felt more able, more capable, more intelligent than brother or sister, and need to get recognition for it. The preschool will make it even knows achievement awarded (in the form of praise or reward) so that more and raced to keep up with the brother.

2. Not to be outdone. Children do not want to lose. Behavior arises because the child wants to get attention from the "environment" in the vicinity. Do not want to lose this sense will be strengthened when people who are considered "rivals" are people who are closest to him, including his brother.

3. Portion of interest is much reduced. If previously sister hard enough to get attention, along with the presence of younger (infants), attention is gradually receding as divided. Discomfort is what is causing the conflict brother and sister. Brother thought, a little brother culprit that makes the outpouring of parental concern and the environment against reduced.

4. Parental attitudes. Sometimes busy taking care of the little one still in its infancy, making the parents did not give enough attention to the bigger children. Or when there is conflict in older children (older toddlers preschoolers with siblings), parents always defended the younger without understanding the conditions that actually happened. Treatment parents often make comparisons.

ending your children bedtime routine with a quality bedtime story

bedtime story

alot of parents face the challenge of putting their children to sleep around bedtime frequently it takes an hour or a lot of to complete this daily battle.
A very effective answer to the present drawback is to introduce a bedtime routine to your children.
By doing constant set of rituals throughout bedtime, it creates a way of security and reliability in their mind that makes them feel a lot of relax when getting to sleep.
A good idea to finish your kids' bedtime routine is reading bedtime story.
Why is that this therefore vital to your kids?

4 Negative Impacts of "Gadgets" to Children's Achievement

The gadget does not just make kids cool for hours, but also pointed out can reduce children's achievement later when he entered the school level. This is consistent with a simple observation pistil School Indonesia against four students, who sat in the same class and got the same treatment.
This observation started since they were sitting in class Dede (education for preschoolers). Three students have the same age that is three years, while the other 2.5 years. The fourth of these students have the same ability, the difference is a hobby.

Parents attitudes that could hinder Child Achievement

Each unique interests and talents can make their children be children who excel. Only, the formation of a winning mentality and achievements they need the support of parents, families, and the immediate environment of children.
"The support parents give a huge influence on a child's success in the field," says psychologist Mira D. Amir in Jakarta.

Teach Children Ethics Borrowing and Sharing

Stimulation of the values ​​and ethics of sharing and borrowing someone else can be done through daily activities at home. One thing that should be remembered, when the child has to understand, then be able to apply them in everyday life, the children are entitled to an award. This award is important to further cultivate the spirit so that children can repeat the positive behavior. Here are some steps you can take:
1. Give an example.Do not blame the child who took the toy when the friend's parents do not respect other people's property. When viewing a pair of scissors lying owned subsidiary, parent company to use it, then put it back afterwards. It would be nice if a parent says, "Kak, borrowed her scissors used to cut the plastic for a while. I'll return it back to the table Mother's brother." Do not forget to say thank you later. Remember, for example by action, is more powerful than words. Children tend to practice everything he sees.
2. Apply the rules.Apply the rules are not written to the home environment, if you want to borrow someone else's property must request permission in advance to the owner. By applying this rule, the child will understand the ethical or borrow other people's manners. Budayakan also share the habit at home. When children forget, try to remind you, "Wait, you forgot to say something?" The child may say, "Uh, yes sorry, Mother, may I borrow your pen for a moment?"
3. Recommend how to share.Instill in children the importance of shared values. It can be applied when the have food, then take your sister to share her sister. When the cake of two, children can share each one. When the cake one, the child can cut first, then the pieces were distributed to a sister or a friend. In addition to sharing food, parents can also share the play toy.
sharing could use a time, alternating every 10 minutes. Can also use a completion of the game. After the child completed a level playing angry birds for example, then turn to the next level friends who play it.
When each carrying toys, teach kids about barter. kids can play a friends toys, while his friends played a child's toy. More fun because each seemed to have a new toy.
When it is implemented on a regular basis, will be a growing awareness in the child would share the beauty. The same thing applies to toys.

Playing Helps Stimulate Children's Motor Ability

No need to worry if your kids love to play. Because, according to psychologist Anna Surti Ariani, SPSI, MSI, play is one way children learn. "By playing the kids can recognize a variety of environmental conditions in the vicinity, and also learn various things, including socialization," said Anna.
In addition to improving social skills and hone creativity, play also can hone motor nerve coordination and cognitive skills of children. In general, this ability can be honed by doing various activities carried out and the house. This makes children become more relaxed, and learn in a fun way.
Games and outdoor activities and indoor Anna recognized as important, only has the effect of different stimuli and function in children. Playing in the room will help stimulate the child's fine motor coordination of their nerves. Associated with fine motor skills involve the small muscles physical, and coordination between eye and hand.
"In the room, the movement to do something more definitely limited, so that the activities carried out are a bit quiet like puzzle games, or playing blocks," he said.
However, it does not mean a more active activity can not be done in the house. Typically, you will instantly angry when he saw the children run around the house. Instead, do not always forbid them to be active in the house. Anna revealed that physical activity is active as it would help train children to develop creative thinking skills, and train his balance so as not to solve a variety of home furnishings. However, the control and supervision of the child's activity remains to be done by parents.
Meanwhile, outside activities and its ability to help children practice gross motor coordination. Gross motor skills help children to practice the coordination between the legs with the body, the eye with the ear, and so forth. Gross motor coordination ability to make children become more agile in physical activity. Such as playing ball, climbing trees, or folk games such as hide and seek, hide and squat, or gobak Sodor. The development of good gross motor nerves will help children to be more active, stronger endurance, as well as having a flexible body.
"Playing hide and squat can help coordinate the child to run to avoid the 'enemy', or train her memory of who loses. Addition, it also helps train the cognitive abilities of children to think of ways and strategies to win, and help their social skills with other friends, "said Anna.

mother could hinder The closeness of father and Child

In addition to his mother, children also need the father to be able to grow and develop. Father involvement is also needed to assist the development of children, especially the ability of the logic. Unfortunately, there is a problem often encountered by mothers, which is difficult to persuade the father to be more actively involved in all activities of child care. The most frequently expressed reason fathers are tired, or that is the job of parenting mothers.

According to child and family psychologist of Anna Surti Ariani, Psi, most of the reason is actually used by the father as the ultimate weapon to avoid involvement in parenting. In addition,

"The main reason fathers are less involved in child care is due to the lack of support and assistance of his wife," said Anna.

According to Anna, there are two types of wives who make the father reluctant to get involved or otherwise, are willing to actively in child care:

A. Type of barrier
Women have plenty of time to learn about the ways the right child care from many people, like family or a community of mothers. Meanwhile, men are just learning to care for a child of the wife, so they actually need the support of his wife to be a good father to his children.

Without realizing it, it makes mother could be the biggest obstacle proximity of father and son. "The moms would not support her husband for parenting activities, even for the smallest things, such as changing diapers," he said.

This stems from a sense of exasperation when she saw her husband always put a diaper on the child's wrong. Finally, you take over the task. When taking over the job, without realizing you are also often angry, nagging, criticizing, or protest about the way her husband to educate children. Anna said, it makes men feel belittled his ability, and are considered incapable of doing anything.

"Men have a high prestige, and when they are scolded for this, they felt their masculinity was tarnished so that eventually they tend to be lazy to do it again, even though they really want," he explained.

To prevent the father to be "cured" child care, try to be patient in their involvement in this activity. Do not give up easily and not have to get angry. Just tell me what they should do.

2. supporting type
Wife who had a supporting character is the type of wife and mother who is very desirable. The closeness of father and son could be well maintained for the support of his wife. There are many ways you can do to help my father mother close to his son, one of them to encourage children to move in close to her father. In addition, fathers were often invited in any activities carried out so that they feel involved in it.

"Create a situation where the father's role is needed in each activity, so that they feel valued," advises Anna.

Another way is to create a situation where the father should be able to maintain and accompany the child while you go to the toilet or go to the shop. "After my father managed to play well and keep the child, even if there are things that one should not directly criticized. Instead, give praise and thanks because it will help you keep the child," he advised.

This will make him feel his hard work appreciated and always needed, so they are more willing to engage actively in educating children.

Raising A Positive Child

imagine yourself as the only member of the family doing all the laundry, work the dishes and intake the kids and the parentage dog. Sounds very preventive? Modify much, if the older kids are doing cipher and they are retributory movement at the lounge all day, watching their preferred demo, not flat heedful that their mom or dad are doing all the succeed around the sanctuary. Sure, flowing a full-service household is not cushy especially if you mortal no spare safekeeping to meliorate you get the things done.

It is useful to hump that there are umpteen types of households. There are parents who provide their children to refrain at institution and they founder their lowercase ones assignments and chores based on their age and capabilities. On the other pointer, there are families where children are not allowed to cater at internal, flat a deltoid chore same folding the sheets in the morning. The kinsfolk's selection to let the tiddler operate or not business and powerfulness.

boys need a Friend!

we often see, at least in the area near the school after school hours, teenage boys huddled together like friends. While adult males, tend to be aloof and not a problem if you do not spend much time with his friends as often as when he was a teenager. Then, what about the boys?

Dr. Michael Handwerk, PhD of child health research institutions in Nebraska, USA, revealed that for boys, friendship is a necessity that can not be negotiable. According Handwerk, a boy basically do not need many friends, as long as he has a best friend. Children will be more easily absorbed into the negative things if he did not have any friends.


Friendship provides a way for children to build a relationship with the world outside the family. Through this relationship, the children learn to consider other perspectives, learning to negotiate, tolerance, and learning abilities they need to be able to live in the future.

Encourage boys to make  friends
If the children do not have the signs began to establish friendships with their peers, parents can take a role to encourage without forcing yourself to look for the meaning of friendship in life.

* Get up close in the first 24 months of a child's life.
By keeping close to the child, he will learn to trust others, without this, he will be afraid of contact.

* Create a child the opportunity to build friendships.
Example, make a pact with the parents of the child for a visit to his house and let the child play with his friend, and instead, invite your friends and parents of children to play in your home. The other way, take the child to the playground, help children get acquainted with the child's peers, or include the child in activities that children like activities, such as music lessons or sports.

* Create a training socialize.
"How many parents teach their children how to start a friendship is true?" asked Dr. Handwerk.
Do not expect the introduction or the ability to start a friendship come naturally.
Parents need to be able to teach his son to form a positive friendships and healthy with a train, for example, how to approach a group of group of children.
Do not forget to notice how the children to play with their peers.
At home, offer your help to begin to train hard to meet if it looks close to their peers.

Build friendships and ability to meet with peers takes considerable practice, and you as a good parent should watch this, because to some extent, friendship for boys to have an influence on his future.

husband support helps growing Maternal Instincts

Active role of the husband can also increase the maternal instinct. Started during pregnancy, such as support to accompany his wife to consult a doctor, or simply buy his wife a young mango cravings while wife, the wife realized that her husband is also very forward to the arrival of a baby.

After the baby comes, the husband still has to support his wife in order to carry out its role as a mother as well. For example, to accompany his wife to learn to breastfeed. That is why, know-how to the right and correct breastfeeding should also owned by the husband.

That way, the support can be very mean man. Of course not only knowledge about breastfeeding, but also other knowledge about child development, so the wife to be very helpful to develop themselves, at once raises the maternal instinct.

Maternal instincts can be raised and can go well with the involvement of various parties..

the father should also pay attention to the baby

Parenting role, including through activities to stimulate baby's growth, not only belongs to the mother. My father also had an equally important role in parenting. The involvement of fathers and mothers in the baby's growth and development activities have many positive effects.

According to Dr. Eddy Vadlyana, SpA, fathers' involvement in activities related to infant growth and development not only grow together. The presence of fathers and mothers in caring for babies and assist your child in every activity also showed the concept of an intact family.

To build together and form a family as a whole, you can do some outdoor activities together. For example, a father and mother took the baby to use a stroller, walking leisurely in the morning.

"It is psychologically healthy for mom and dad, and healthy for the baby because she was in the morning sunlight that it needs to support its growth," said Dr. Eddy during a press conference and the record-breaking festival Happynesia MURI Most Baby Train Parade (714) in the East Parking Surabaya (Delta) Plaza, Surabaya, East Java.

Dr. Eddy said the baby's growth is influenced by genetic and environmental. Environmental factors of nutrition and stimulation. How do fathers and mothers giving optimal role in meeting the nutritional needs of infants and stimulation, will determine the growth and development of infants.

To nutritional factors, the mother can make it from breastfeeding, especially exclusive breastfeeding for six months, with a father who provides psychological support. Stimulation is equally important to note that the father and mother, that baby is not experiencing a slow growth. Many stimulating activities that can be done with the baby's father and mother.

However, it is also necessary to know the parents are the child's growth problem is related to the child's sleep patterns. "Growth hormone is optimal if the baby is asleep," he explained.

Various needs of infants, both nutrients and stimulation, including watching a baby sleep patterns is what needs to be met father and mother, together. Indonesia so that fewer and fewer babies who experience barriers to growth and development.

Dr. Eddy said, 20 percent of the population of Indonesia children have problems in its development, including speech. Four of 10 children in Indonesia also have short stature, or about 37 percent. To avoid this, fathers and mothers need mutual support and stimulation to meet the nutritional needs of infants.