mother could hinder The closeness of father and Child

In addition to his mother, children also need the father to be able to grow and develop. Father involvement is also needed to assist the development of children, especially the ability of the logic. Unfortunately, there is a problem often encountered by mothers, which is difficult to persuade the father to be more actively involved in all activities of child care. The most frequently expressed reason fathers are tired, or that is the job of parenting mothers.

According to child and family psychologist of Anna Surti Ariani, Psi, most of the reason is actually used by the father as the ultimate weapon to avoid involvement in parenting. In addition,

"The main reason fathers are less involved in child care is due to the lack of support and assistance of his wife," said Anna.

According to Anna, there are two types of wives who make the father reluctant to get involved or otherwise, are willing to actively in child care:

A. Type of barrier
Women have plenty of time to learn about the ways the right child care from many people, like family or a community of mothers. Meanwhile, men are just learning to care for a child of the wife, so they actually need the support of his wife to be a good father to his children.

Without realizing it, it makes mother could be the biggest obstacle proximity of father and son. "The moms would not support her husband for parenting activities, even for the smallest things, such as changing diapers," he said.

This stems from a sense of exasperation when she saw her husband always put a diaper on the child's wrong. Finally, you take over the task. When taking over the job, without realizing you are also often angry, nagging, criticizing, or protest about the way her husband to educate children. Anna said, it makes men feel belittled his ability, and are considered incapable of doing anything.

"Men have a high prestige, and when they are scolded for this, they felt their masculinity was tarnished so that eventually they tend to be lazy to do it again, even though they really want," he explained.

To prevent the father to be "cured" child care, try to be patient in their involvement in this activity. Do not give up easily and not have to get angry. Just tell me what they should do.

2. supporting type
Wife who had a supporting character is the type of wife and mother who is very desirable. The closeness of father and son could be well maintained for the support of his wife. There are many ways you can do to help my father mother close to his son, one of them to encourage children to move in close to her father. In addition, fathers were often invited in any activities carried out so that they feel involved in it.

"Create a situation where the father's role is needed in each activity, so that they feel valued," advises Anna.

Another way is to create a situation where the father should be able to maintain and accompany the child while you go to the toilet or go to the shop. "After my father managed to play well and keep the child, even if there are things that one should not directly criticized. Instead, give praise and thanks because it will help you keep the child," he advised.

This will make him feel his hard work appreciated and always needed, so they are more willing to engage actively in educating children.