Five causes of children do not like to stay at home

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I wonder why so school-age children often play outside the house. Dr Weny Savitry Sembiring Psi, MSI have the following five reasons explain the solution.

1. Do not have a regular schedule.
Children who are not accustomed to having a schedule since childhood, finally tends to use his time in vain. Whenever she wanted to do something, do instantly without considering anything else. If he still wants to play, he will continue playing, no matter had not had lunch, not bathing, not doing homework and so on.
Solution: Create a daily schedule. If it was not able, her mother and father can help create. Home from school, change clothes, lunch, after which a break or a nap. Then, wake up, shower, if there are no lessons or activities at school, probably around 1-2 hours, then do homework or schoolwork. Performed on a regular schedule and will continue to make children get used to. If there were not tired of reminding the violated.

2. There are no events of interest.
Lacks of activities or hobbies that are of interest to children spend their time just to play.
Solution: Parents should be keen to see and direct the child's talents or interests. If the child looks interested in football or music, facilitation to join the football club or a music school. Oriented activities such as this is more useful, channeled his interest in a proper way.

3. Lack of good communication.
Children who lack good communication with parents have a tendency to always play outside the home. Parents who always blame the child, criticized, banned, and so on, or parents who fought constantly, this will make the child feel comfortable, so there is opportunity out, he will use it. The danger, if the child is happier outside the home, he could fall in unhealthy relationships and even drugs.
Solution: Try the approach in children, while casually talking to why he always wanted to play outside the home. Make this conversation as a casual conversation; do not blame the child or cornering. If he does not stand up to blaze with the situation at home, do not be angry, be self-introspection, do the repairs so that children feel at home again. If necessary, involve experts, in this case a psychologist, to help people find a way out.

4. Character of the child support.
Certain characters, such as, children with kinesthetic intelligence, generally can not be told to stay home, he liked the broad field of activities. So it felt like to always play outside.
Solution: Look for activities that are beneficial to overcome the excess. Such as by listing them in sports clubs or extracurricular activities at school. Do not get because parents do not realize this, that there is actually a fight every day with the kids, because they feel the child continued to play outdoors, is not willing to learn, and so forth.

5. No friends at home.
Children who are always alone in the house, but living in an environment where many children her own age, are more likely to be tempted to play with. Every day after school or evening he heard the other children busy playing outside, he inevitably comes into play.
Solution: Prohibit the child from the house at all is definitely not a wise choice. Should provide clear rules or limits, how long should play, any day, combine with other solutions such as tutoring include or incorporate it into the club.

Why The Feeling unrivaled brother?

In preschool, children can engage in competition with his brother who was a baby or toddler. What causes it?

1. Need recognition. At the age of 3-5 years, children already have the desire to excel. He felt more able, more capable, more intelligent than brother or sister, and need to get recognition for it. The preschool will make it even knows achievement awarded (in the form of praise or reward) so that more and raced to keep up with the brother.

2. Not to be outdone. Children do not want to lose. Behavior arises because the child wants to get attention from the "environment" in the vicinity. Do not want to lose this sense will be strengthened when people who are considered "rivals" are people who are closest to him, including his brother.

3. Portion of interest is much reduced. If previously sister hard enough to get attention, along with the presence of younger (infants), attention is gradually receding as divided. Discomfort is what is causing the conflict brother and sister. Brother thought, a little brother culprit that makes the outpouring of parental concern and the environment against reduced.

4. Parental attitudes. Sometimes busy taking care of the little one still in its infancy, making the parents did not give enough attention to the bigger children. Or when there is conflict in older children (older toddlers preschoolers with siblings), parents always defended the younger without understanding the conditions that actually happened. Treatment parents often make comparisons.

ending your children bedtime routine with a quality bedtime story

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alot of parents face the challenge of putting their children to sleep around bedtime frequently it takes an hour or a lot of to complete this daily battle.
A very effective answer to the present drawback is to introduce a bedtime routine to your children.
By doing constant set of rituals throughout bedtime, it creates a way of security and reliability in their mind that makes them feel a lot of relax when getting to sleep.
A good idea to finish your kids' bedtime routine is reading bedtime story.
Why is that this therefore vital to your kids?

4 Negative Impacts of "Gadgets" to Children's Achievement

The gadget does not just make kids cool for hours, but also pointed out can reduce children's achievement later when he entered the school level. This is consistent with a simple observation pistil School Indonesia against four students, who sat in the same class and got the same treatment.
This observation started since they were sitting in class Dede (education for preschoolers). Three students have the same age that is three years, while the other 2.5 years. The fourth of these students have the same ability, the difference is a hobby.

Parents attitudes that could hinder Child Achievement

Each unique interests and talents can make their children be children who excel. Only, the formation of a winning mentality and achievements they need the support of parents, families, and the immediate environment of children.
"The support parents give a huge influence on a child's success in the field," says psychologist Mira D. Amir in Jakarta.

Teach Children Ethics Borrowing and Sharing

Stimulation of the values ​​and ethics of sharing and borrowing someone else can be done through daily activities at home. One thing that should be remembered, when the child has to understand, then be able to apply them in everyday life, the children are entitled to an award. This award is important to further cultivate the spirit so that children can repeat the positive behavior. Here are some steps you can take:
1. Give an example.Do not blame the child who took the toy when the friend's parents do not respect other people's property. When viewing a pair of scissors lying owned subsidiary, parent company to use it, then put it back afterwards. It would be nice if a parent says, "Kak, borrowed her scissors used to cut the plastic for a while. I'll return it back to the table Mother's brother." Do not forget to say thank you later. Remember, for example by action, is more powerful than words. Children tend to practice everything he sees.
2. Apply the rules.Apply the rules are not written to the home environment, if you want to borrow someone else's property must request permission in advance to the owner. By applying this rule, the child will understand the ethical or borrow other people's manners. Budayakan also share the habit at home. When children forget, try to remind you, "Wait, you forgot to say something?" The child may say, "Uh, yes sorry, Mother, may I borrow your pen for a moment?"
3. Recommend how to share.Instill in children the importance of shared values. It can be applied when the have food, then take your sister to share her sister. When the cake of two, children can share each one. When the cake one, the child can cut first, then the pieces were distributed to a sister or a friend. In addition to sharing food, parents can also share the play toy.
sharing could use a time, alternating every 10 minutes. Can also use a completion of the game. After the child completed a level playing angry birds for example, then turn to the next level friends who play it.
When each carrying toys, teach kids about barter. kids can play a friends toys, while his friends played a child's toy. More fun because each seemed to have a new toy.
When it is implemented on a regular basis, will be a growing awareness in the child would share the beauty. The same thing applies to toys.

Playing Helps Stimulate Children's Motor Ability

No need to worry if your kids love to play. Because, according to psychologist Anna Surti Ariani, SPSI, MSI, play is one way children learn. "By playing the kids can recognize a variety of environmental conditions in the vicinity, and also learn various things, including socialization," said Anna.
In addition to improving social skills and hone creativity, play also can hone motor nerve coordination and cognitive skills of children. In general, this ability can be honed by doing various activities carried out and the house. This makes children become more relaxed, and learn in a fun way.
Games and outdoor activities and indoor Anna recognized as important, only has the effect of different stimuli and function in children. Playing in the room will help stimulate the child's fine motor coordination of their nerves. Associated with fine motor skills involve the small muscles physical, and coordination between eye and hand.
"In the room, the movement to do something more definitely limited, so that the activities carried out are a bit quiet like puzzle games, or playing blocks," he said.
However, it does not mean a more active activity can not be done in the house. Typically, you will instantly angry when he saw the children run around the house. Instead, do not always forbid them to be active in the house. Anna revealed that physical activity is active as it would help train children to develop creative thinking skills, and train his balance so as not to solve a variety of home furnishings. However, the control and supervision of the child's activity remains to be done by parents.
Meanwhile, outside activities and its ability to help children practice gross motor coordination. Gross motor skills help children to practice the coordination between the legs with the body, the eye with the ear, and so forth. Gross motor coordination ability to make children become more agile in physical activity. Such as playing ball, climbing trees, or folk games such as hide and seek, hide and squat, or gobak Sodor. The development of good gross motor nerves will help children to be more active, stronger endurance, as well as having a flexible body.
"Playing hide and squat can help coordinate the child to run to avoid the 'enemy', or train her memory of who loses. Addition, it also helps train the cognitive abilities of children to think of ways and strategies to win, and help their social skills with other friends, "said Anna.