Playing Helps Stimulate Children's Motor Ability

No need to worry if your kids love to play. Because, according to psychologist Anna Surti Ariani, SPSI, MSI, play is one way children learn. "By playing the kids can recognize a variety of environmental conditions in the vicinity, and also learn various things, including socialization," said Anna.
In addition to improving social skills and hone creativity, play also can hone motor nerve coordination and cognitive skills of children. In general, this ability can be honed by doing various activities carried out and the house. This makes children become more relaxed, and learn in a fun way.
Games and outdoor activities and indoor Anna recognized as important, only has the effect of different stimuli and function in children. Playing in the room will help stimulate the child's fine motor coordination of their nerves. Associated with fine motor skills involve the small muscles physical, and coordination between eye and hand.
"In the room, the movement to do something more definitely limited, so that the activities carried out are a bit quiet like puzzle games, or playing blocks," he said.
However, it does not mean a more active activity can not be done in the house. Typically, you will instantly angry when he saw the children run around the house. Instead, do not always forbid them to be active in the house. Anna revealed that physical activity is active as it would help train children to develop creative thinking skills, and train his balance so as not to solve a variety of home furnishings. However, the control and supervision of the child's activity remains to be done by parents.
Meanwhile, outside activities and its ability to help children practice gross motor coordination. Gross motor skills help children to practice the coordination between the legs with the body, the eye with the ear, and so forth. Gross motor coordination ability to make children become more agile in physical activity. Such as playing ball, climbing trees, or folk games such as hide and seek, hide and squat, or gobak Sodor. The development of good gross motor nerves will help children to be more active, stronger endurance, as well as having a flexible body.
"Playing hide and squat can help coordinate the child to run to avoid the 'enemy', or train her memory of who loses. Addition, it also helps train the cognitive abilities of children to think of ways and strategies to win, and help their social skills with other friends, "said Anna.

mother could hinder The closeness of father and Child

In addition to his mother, children also need the father to be able to grow and develop. Father involvement is also needed to assist the development of children, especially the ability of the logic. Unfortunately, there is a problem often encountered by mothers, which is difficult to persuade the father to be more actively involved in all activities of child care. The most frequently expressed reason fathers are tired, or that is the job of parenting mothers.

According to child and family psychologist of Anna Surti Ariani, Psi, most of the reason is actually used by the father as the ultimate weapon to avoid involvement in parenting. In addition,

"The main reason fathers are less involved in child care is due to the lack of support and assistance of his wife," said Anna.

According to Anna, there are two types of wives who make the father reluctant to get involved or otherwise, are willing to actively in child care:

A. Type of barrier
Women have plenty of time to learn about the ways the right child care from many people, like family or a community of mothers. Meanwhile, men are just learning to care for a child of the wife, so they actually need the support of his wife to be a good father to his children.

Without realizing it, it makes mother could be the biggest obstacle proximity of father and son. "The moms would not support her husband for parenting activities, even for the smallest things, such as changing diapers," he said.

This stems from a sense of exasperation when she saw her husband always put a diaper on the child's wrong. Finally, you take over the task. When taking over the job, without realizing you are also often angry, nagging, criticizing, or protest about the way her husband to educate children. Anna said, it makes men feel belittled his ability, and are considered incapable of doing anything.

"Men have a high prestige, and when they are scolded for this, they felt their masculinity was tarnished so that eventually they tend to be lazy to do it again, even though they really want," he explained.

To prevent the father to be "cured" child care, try to be patient in their involvement in this activity. Do not give up easily and not have to get angry. Just tell me what they should do.

2. supporting type
Wife who had a supporting character is the type of wife and mother who is very desirable. The closeness of father and son could be well maintained for the support of his wife. There are many ways you can do to help my father mother close to his son, one of them to encourage children to move in close to her father. In addition, fathers were often invited in any activities carried out so that they feel involved in it.

"Create a situation where the father's role is needed in each activity, so that they feel valued," advises Anna.

Another way is to create a situation where the father should be able to maintain and accompany the child while you go to the toilet or go to the shop. "After my father managed to play well and keep the child, even if there are things that one should not directly criticized. Instead, give praise and thanks because it will help you keep the child," he advised.

This will make him feel his hard work appreciated and always needed, so they are more willing to engage actively in educating children.

Raising A Positive Child

imagine yourself as the only member of the family doing all the laundry, work the dishes and intake the kids and the parentage dog. Sounds very preventive? Modify much, if the older kids are doing cipher and they are retributory movement at the lounge all day, watching their preferred demo, not flat heedful that their mom or dad are doing all the succeed around the sanctuary. Sure, flowing a full-service household is not cushy especially if you mortal no spare safekeeping to meliorate you get the things done.

It is useful to hump that there are umpteen types of households. There are parents who provide their children to refrain at institution and they founder their lowercase ones assignments and chores based on their age and capabilities. On the other pointer, there are families where children are not allowed to cater at internal, flat a deltoid chore same folding the sheets in the morning. The kinsfolk's selection to let the tiddler operate or not business and powerfulness.

boys need a Friend!

we often see, at least in the area near the school after school hours, teenage boys huddled together like friends. While adult males, tend to be aloof and not a problem if you do not spend much time with his friends as often as when he was a teenager. Then, what about the boys?

Dr. Michael Handwerk, PhD of child health research institutions in Nebraska, USA, revealed that for boys, friendship is a necessity that can not be negotiable. According Handwerk, a boy basically do not need many friends, as long as he has a best friend. Children will be more easily absorbed into the negative things if he did not have any friends.


Friendship provides a way for children to build a relationship with the world outside the family. Through this relationship, the children learn to consider other perspectives, learning to negotiate, tolerance, and learning abilities they need to be able to live in the future.

Encourage boys to make  friends
If the children do not have the signs began to establish friendships with their peers, parents can take a role to encourage without forcing yourself to look for the meaning of friendship in life.

* Get up close in the first 24 months of a child's life.
By keeping close to the child, he will learn to trust others, without this, he will be afraid of contact.

* Create a child the opportunity to build friendships.
Example, make a pact with the parents of the child for a visit to his house and let the child play with his friend, and instead, invite your friends and parents of children to play in your home. The other way, take the child to the playground, help children get acquainted with the child's peers, or include the child in activities that children like activities, such as music lessons or sports.

* Create a training socialize.
"How many parents teach their children how to start a friendship is true?" asked Dr. Handwerk.
Do not expect the introduction or the ability to start a friendship come naturally.
Parents need to be able to teach his son to form a positive friendships and healthy with a train, for example, how to approach a group of group of children.
Do not forget to notice how the children to play with their peers.
At home, offer your help to begin to train hard to meet if it looks close to their peers.

Build friendships and ability to meet with peers takes considerable practice, and you as a good parent should watch this, because to some extent, friendship for boys to have an influence on his future.